Walk a mile in my shoes...
I've often heard friends and family alike express envy over my supposed no-responsibility life. Meaning that with no kids to worry about, I can do anything - I can jump to a new travel destination at a drop of a hat, can easily focus only on my needs and what I want to achieve in life - do what I want to do, without being weighed down by the selfless acts required by parental responsibilities.
Really? You think its that straightforward? I've often found that its easier for me to do things for other people. Someone needs help, I don't have to think twice - I know exactly what I need to do, I am ready to offer my help, and get things going as quickly as necessary. There is low risk of failure, and the benefits are boundless! I've actually caught myself cruising for someone to help at times!
On the other hand, when the time comes to work on my own needs, my own goals and aspirations, its extremely challenging. There is high risk, and although there is great potential for many benefits, there is also the possibility of failure which equals no perceived benefit. It takes a special type of person to be able to acknowledge those risks, and move forward anyway, because they have the passion and drive to make things work, and are ready to learn if things don't quite go according to plan. They can pick themselves up, and go to it again.... This is not the easier route - and its the same route that someone who has children has to take, once they stop using those children as excuses, and actually do the work to get those dreams acknowledged.I don't have an easier task, I just have a different task. I make different excuses, and feel fear just the same way.
Lets remember the saying: "It's not because things are difficult that we dare not venture. It's because we dare not venture that they are difficult.”
posted by SoulSearcher @ 6:24 AM
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